Resisting Change

I need your advice and help, because I think that I am guilty of resisting change. I got married in 1988, changed my name, and have been Mrs. Rhonda Finniss ever since. Unfortunately, the marriage didn't make it, but in the meantime professionally this is who I am.

I am struggling with what to do with my name.

I have always believed that when a woman gets divorced, she should give back the name she married. Especially if her ex-husband remarries. This isn't a new thought, it is an old one for me.

So, if I go back to my maiden name (Scharf btw), will I confuse my clients, contacts and people within my network?

Should I hyphen and be Rhonda Scharf-Finniss for a while and then drop the Finniss after a year or two?

Should I not care, and just keep the Finniss? (and then, to complicate even more, what happens if I remarry?)

Because it is so complicated, I'm resisting and would love your advice!

Rhonda :-)