Do your friends judge you?

I have a challenge with a friend. She doesn't always see things the way I do, and often judges my actions (negatively) because she doesn't agree. It is a very black and white approach to life. One is right, one is wrong, and there is never any gray inbetween.

Let me give you an example:

We've bought a new house. It's BIG (really big), and I'm really really excited about it. This friend feels that big houses are a big waste of money. She sees our new home (We move in at the end of August) as ugly because it is bigger than she would ever want. No one needs that much room, that much land, and that much extravagance (her words). Therefore, the feeling I get is that I am stupid to buy this home (which is a great investment in my eyes).

My feeling is that if she says that she likes my new home, it would indicate that she didn't like her own home enough and it might 'insult' her husbands ability to provide for her. Does this make sense? She doesn't want to say that it is nice because of being afraid of having that look like envy.

So, I get nothing. I get comments, like "That is a big house". She believes that if you have nothing good to say, you should say nothing at all. So, she says nothing. She asks no questions about the home, shows no interest and doesn't want to talk about it.

This hurts my feelings. I don't need her to say that she loves it if she doesn't, but I feel judged (negatively). Why can't she say she likes "x" or that "y" will be very nice?

Do I approach her on this? Do I say anything? Do I challenge her thinking?

How do you handle when someone judges you? Is there a win/win here or am I being a big baby? What do I do about it?

Rhonda

Please give me advice, ask your own question, or tell us how great your friends are, and what they've done for you!