Confrontation
This month we are going to do something a little different. Instead of me giving you one of my challenges, we are going to open it up entirely for your issues. What challenges are you having? What help do you need with confrontation?
Do you have someone in your life that you really need to confront, yet you just don't know what to do?
Please post (without using your name) what your challenge is, and I (as well as other readers) will give you suggestions on what you need to do!
Good luck - and for those of you without any current challenges, please help all our readers.
R
Do you have someone in your life that you really need to confront, yet you just don't know what to do?
Please post (without using your name) what your challenge is, and I (as well as other readers) will give you suggestions on what you need to do!
Good luck - and for those of you without any current challenges, please help all our readers.
R
posted by Rhonda! @ 8:58 PM
3 Comments:
At 9:54 AM,
Anonymous said…
I have recently returned to my workplace from paternity leave. I had been replaced about 6 months after my leave started with another admin whom apparently has beed hired at one level higher pay than me.
Before I went on leave a position one level higher was posted along with my replacement in the same posting so I applied for the new position. They put a freeze on the hiring of that position for several months and then reposted (without informing me) someone else told me about it. I resent my resume. About 2 months went by and I heard nothing. I decided to cut my leave early to get a better shot at the position. Once, my 4 week notice was in I was told 3 days before my return that the position was not going to be filled at all.
I received an email on the Friday before I started back from my boss stating what my duties will be and where I will be sitting as they have "restructured" the admins while I was away. Admins don't report to directors any more but rather do specific tasks instead. But it seems that my replacement is still doing everything I did before.
I have been given a new "empty" desk with nothing. My directors I worked for are being taken care of by my replacement - still. I had been in my previous position for over 3 years and did a lot of work to create what it was. I spent a lot of time building templates and relationships within the departments.
Now, I have nothing and have been given duties that the others find petty and remedial. This is only my 3rd day back and I feel very alienated and frustrated. I want to voice my concerns but am not sure how to go about it. Any help is greatly appreciated. Thanks.
At 5:18 PM,
Anonymous said…
HELP!
Early this week I was talking to my wife about taking a proactive step to help resolve on-going family/business conflicts, which have deteriorates our family relationship as well as the performance of our family business.
Today someone forwarded us an excerpt from your website about the issue of confrontation and I thought this may be the vehicle we need to begin the process.
I work for a publicly traded company based. We as a family hold over 55% of the shares. The business is very much a family run organization where my Father-in-law is the Chairman, President and CEO and very much the central person in the organization. Both my wife and I are key members of the senior management. My sister in law is also involved (in marketing) and my mother-in-law who is not active in the business is a definite "force behind the scene" to contend with.
We have always been a close family, however, about 18 months ago my wife and I expressed concern and opposition to the way in which the business is being run. This was not a new thing for me as I have always been a source of challenge and change within the organization. Having an executive MBA and a natural business ability I felt (and still feel) it is my obligation to the business, the family and all our stakeholders. However, the stance was new for my wife. As a family, my father-in-law was never to be questioned and I think her stance resulted in a family-wide shock. My wife just started her MBA program so I think she will also become a loud voice and a change agent on her own. Under these conditions this is bound to end in war...sort of speak.
The end result: We have not been able to function as a family nor as a business. We have never been able to confront and deal with the situation and there are a lot of negative feelings festering our minds and stopping from enjoying our lives.
I proposed to my wife that we should seek help and try to confront the issue now. Even if in the end there is no resolution, I think some "sould cleansing" may do us all some good.
My wife and I have a wonderful family with three young children and I think they are being robbed from experiencing a close family and a close relationship with their grand-parents.
Finally, our business has not been performing well for years and this situation has made things worse. We now have an angry lone ranger heading the company and I am sure he is not clear himself as to what to do next. I am sure he is "lonely at the top".........I tell you, Harvard Business School would pay millions to have a case written about our company!!!
Aside from our family's wellbeing, we also have a responsibility towards the business, the employees, the shareholders and all of our stakeholders. They all deserve a focused, strategic, cohesive and successful management team and not an unhappy and divided familiy with unresolved issues.
Can you help? Can I help? Can we help?
At 11:37 AM,
Anonymous said…
It sounds like you need to contact someone like the below company and read related material. They offer books on the subject. Check out their website. Your Father-in-law has built up the family business and feels it is "his baby". Sensitivity to his perspective is vital in moving forward. All the best! Donna
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