What are you afraid of?
Core Fears
It will likely take a while, but think about the situation/event you fear more than any others. This will create an emotion that makes it very difficult to deal with.
Check out this month's newsletter for the details, http://on-the-right-track.com/newsletter.php?id=44 and let us know what you are afraid of. Don't be afraid of judgement, it is interesting for us to discover what people are afraid of, and why it causes the reactions it does.
Thanks,
Rhonda
It will likely take a while, but think about the situation/event you fear more than any others. This will create an emotion that makes it very difficult to deal with.
Check out this month's newsletter for the details, http://on-the-right-track.com/newsletter.php?id=44 and let us know what you are afraid of. Don't be afraid of judgement, it is interesting for us to discover what people are afraid of, and why it causes the reactions it does.
Thanks,
Rhonda
posted by Rhonda! @ 5:17 PM
5 Comments:
At 1:56 PM,
Anonymous said…
I've thought about this over the weekend, and realize that I think my fear is being alone.
My husband had an affair with a woman he worked with. I knew it, and I never confronted him on it.
If I confronted him on it, then I would be forced to accept that I knew it and tolerated it. I was afraid that if he knew that I knew then he would leave me.
I would rather be with a man that was in love with someone else than be alone.
That looks terrible in print, but my core fear is being alone.
I avoid major conflict because I don't want him to leave me. I avoid arguing because I'm afraid it will give him an excuse to leave me.
Am I the only one?
At 8:30 PM,
Anonymous said…
While the feeling of being "not good enough" has plauged me pretty much all of my life, I don't consider it a fear, so I'm not going to suggest that the not-worthy core fear is mine.
My biggest fear, is being lost. I rarely travel alone, and I won't at all if the distance is great and I do not have anyone to meet me at the destination point. I'm on the brink of panic everytime I fly alone, both in the departure airport, as well as in the destination airport, and the feeling doesn't subside until I see for certain that I am truly at the correct gate, or when I see my friends waiting for me when I arrive.
Oddly enough, I am not afraid of being lost when I am with someone, so I guess I should qualify my original statement to: I am terribly afraid of being lost alone.
At 2:48 PM,
Anonymous said…
To the one who wrote about her husband, my response is "no you are not alone". I would think that many married, or co-habitated, couples are going through the same thing - AFRAID TO LEAVE BECAUSE....
Read the book "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyoway" - Susan Jeffers.
Good luck
At 3:13 PM,
Anonymous said…
To the woman who wrote "I would rather be with a man that was in love with someone else than be alone". If your husband is in love with someone else, you are already alone. There are too many people who sacrifice personal happiness because of the fear you speak of. You deserve to be in a loving and healthy relationship. I hope you find one ....
At 4:31 PM,
Anonymous said…
To the woman who's afraid to be alone, therefore tolerated an affair without letting on she knew about it: You are definetely not alone, however, if the affair is over, your husband loves you and you love him, forgive him and move on. When he does it again be brave and ask him to choose. You deserve better than to represent the comfort of home without getting anything in return. Once you leave him and move on you may find you have many friends, family or other loving relationships you can foster and you may realize you were never so alone as when living with a partner who only used you! Face your fear, what is the worst that can happen when you take the step? What good things may happen?
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